I don’t like feeling weak.

To be honest, I hate it. I hate the moments when my emotions feel too heavy to carry, when my mind spirals with questions and doubts. In those times, I’d rather distract myself, numb myself… anything but face reality.

And yet, this is the very place where God wants to meet me. Not in the image of strength I try to maintain, but in the raw, unfiltered truth of what I’ve been running from.

A Revelation of Weakness

The Holy Spirit asked me a hard question recently:

“Why do you think I operate through human weakness?”

I resisted this question at first because a part of me felt like weakness was a trap. Like God had designed me to fail and just sat back to watch.

Then I sensed Him spoke again:

“It’s not about failure. It’s about restoring you to your original design. Weakness is the gateway to supernatural power.”

It reminded me of what God told Paul: “My strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

And then there’s Zechariah 12:8: “The feeblest among them will be like David.”

Not the strongest. Not the most prepared. The feeblest. The weakest.

Most of my life, I’ve avoided weakness. And when I did feel it, I saw it as something to fix, something to push through, something that made me less. But God doesn’t see it that way. In fact, He works in the exact opposite way.

The Masculinity Trap

Let me speak as a man: I’ve been unlearning my idea of what masculinity is.

I grew up believing that being a man meant always being strong. Always having answers. Always knowing what to do.

So when I felt weak, I hated it. I felt like I wasn’t really a man.

I’d push my emotions down, cover them up with distractions, even numb them with sin. Because somewhere deep down, I believed that real men don’t feel weak.

And that belief? It shaped my life in ways I didn’t even realize.

One day when I was struggling, I sensed the Holy Spirit speak this to me:

“King David was able to be strengthened in Me because he was weak before Me.”

If you don’t know who King David was, He is a Bible character who accomplished many things. He was known as the warrior King. Giant killer. A man after God’s own heart.

And yet, he was strong because he let himself be weak before God.

If you read the Psalms, you see it. His prayers weren’t neat or polished. They were raw, desperate and sometimes messy. He didn’t hide his pain or pretend to be okay. He brought it to God.

And after some reflection I sensed God was saying this about Kingdom masculinity:

“A Kingdom man isn’t afraid of his weakness. He’s honest about it and knows where to take it.”

Here’s the thing: the men I admire most in Scripture weren’t strong because they forced themselves to be, they were strong because they depended on God:

• Moses begged God to send someone else when God called him.
• Gideon hid and doubted himself.
• Jeremiah wept and wrestled with depression.

If you’re a man, it’s okay to have emotions and struggle sometimes! It’s normal and I encourage you to take it to God and let Him help you handle it well.

And if you’re a woman reading this, these principles can apply to you too. Because the truth is: weakness is our access point to supernatural strength.

God Hates Image

One more thing. The Holy Spirit said this:

“I am opposed to image. If you want to experience My counsel and might, you need to stop putting on an image. No lying to yourself, Me, or others.”

I’ll be real… church culture doesn’t always help with this.

We love to pretend we have it all together. We say the right words. We put on our Christian masks. We give the impression of faith and strength, even when we’re barely holding on.

God doesn’t move through the image we create:

• When we protect an image, we block God’s healing.
• When we defend an image, we resist God’s correction.
• When we prioritize an image, we lose authenticity in our walk with Him.

It’s hard to get God’s help when I’m pretending I don’t need it.

A Call to Surrender

So here’s where I land:

God isn’t calling me to prove myself or pretend I have it all together. Instead, He wants me to be real.

And He wants you to be real as well.

It’s from the place of acknowledging our vulnerabilities that we receive God’s strength because He is a loving Father who wants His children to feel safe enough with Him to be honest.

It’s time to stop running from our weaknesses and instead bring them to God so He can empower us.

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